My problem is that I almost always (with a very rare exception) urinate either during an orgasm or right before.  I'm not sure if I have ever really reached the height of an orgasm.  I have to make my husband stop stimulating me and once I have urinated, I"m not able to reach another orgasm. Is this normal? I have read a few books on the subject of sex and have never seen this situation described.  Can you help me?

Thank you for your letter which shares your struggle so openly.  It may come as a surprise to you, but many women experience a release of fluid with orgasm.  It is our estimate that about 5% of women experience this response- most of them silently.  We think of it as a normal variation in women's responses.  It is referred to as female ejaculation.  We understand that it feels like urination, but in fact, if you were to have the fluid analyzed by a lab, you would discover that it has a different chemical composition than urine.  We write about this in our book Restoring the Pleasure (pp. 80, 117, 249).

This flooding response is typically reported by women who are intensely sexual and is most commonly a result of vaginal or G-spot stimulation.  It should be celebrated and enjoyed as part of your orgasm.  If you try to stop it, you will only end up frustrated.  So we recommend that you prepare the bed with an extra towel or two and "go for it!"  If you can be aggressive in going for it, it will heighten your pleasure.  To read more about this in detail, see The G-Spot by Laddas, Whipple and Perry. Hope this helps!

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